People have sex for many reasons including the emotional connection it offers, in hopes of getting pregnant, and mostly just because it feels amazing. Sadly, women don’t always experience the same earth-shattering, mind blowing climax that men seem to so easily achieve. In fact, during intercourse alone, women only orgasm between 30% and 40% of the time. That’s not even half! Those are some depressing odds for ladies.
The good news is, with a little know how, patience, and flexibility (literally), you and your partner can share a more satisfying sex life. You might be surprised to learn that for a lot of guys, your pleasure is just as important as theirs. In fact, they get off on getting you off! So, let’s explore some of the best sex positions for helping women reach the big O.
1. Go Down Under
Oral sex is where it’s at. While this isn’t an intercourse sex position, it’s definitely one of the most successful if the end game is an orgasm. The female clitoris is packed with over 8,000 electrifying nerve endings. You can stimulate this sensitive love button in a variety of ways including through masturbation and using sex toys, to having your partner dive in, face first! Another effective method is for your partner to use two fingers in the shape of a peace sign and run them up and down the outside edges of your clit in a scissoring motion while licking or sucking the tip. This stimulates both the sides and the head of this powerful organ for intense pleasure. School of Squirt teaches a lot of great clitorial stimulation techniques on their website if you wish to learn more.
2. Face-Down or Doggy Style
This is the perfect sex position for both clitoral stimulation and spanking during sex – if that’s your thing. Most women need both vaginal and clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. When positioned on your belly, your partner can enter you at a perfect angle for deeper penetration. The faster and deeper your male partner gets, the more likely it is that his scrotum will make contact with your clit, creating both a slapping sound and dual stimulation. In this position, your partner can also reach around and stimulate your clit with their hand or you can reach down and do it yourself! You can also invest in sex furniture like tantra chair or pillows that help you achieve and hold the best positions for female orgasm.
3. Back Down, Hips Up
Do you prefer a more traditional sex position? Do you want to see your partner’s face or look into their eyes during sex? If so, take things down to your back. Spread your legs so your partner can kneel between them and take hold of your hips. In this position, they can thrust hard, fast, and deep. Thrust your own hips upward (in a bridge position) for deeper penetration and the ideal angle. The best part about this position is that it leaves your clit exposed and attainable for stimulation. Use your fingers, a vibrator, or your partner’s fingers in rhythm with their thrusts.
4. Spooning
Spooning isn’t just for after sex. You can spoon during intercourse for increased intimacy and better access to your clit, breasts, and other erogenous zones. Take things to the couch and lay in front of your partner, with your backside to their crotch. Drape your top leg back over the back of the couch, spreading your legs wide and letting your partner enter you. Not only does this angle feel awesome but now your hands (or your partner’s) are free to explore your clit, belly, breasts, and any other areas that feel good and add to your pleasure. This position is also very intimate, which can increase emotional connection and sexual satisfaction for both partners, but especially for the female.
5. Cowgirl
A classic sex position that puts you in the driver’s seat is cowgirl, or you on top, straddling your partner. This sex position offers increased friction for you and constant contact between your clit and your partner’s body. Your partner can also pull out several times during sex, letting you slide your clit, vulva, and labia around for added stimulation. The best part about this position is that you can control the rhythm, penetration, speed, and angle. Your partner can grab onto your hips, thrusting upward, swiveling their hips, or moving with fast, short motions if that’s what feels best. As with any sexual relationship, communication is key so be sure to tell each other what feels good and what doesn’t.
6. Lap Dance
Another great position for control is mounting your partner while they’re sitting in a chair. Sit facing your partner, straddling both them and the chair. Grab hold of either the back of the chair or their shoulders and start rocking back and forth. They can help by holding your waist or hips, guiding your movements. This position also puts their face in line with your chest for increased stimulation. You can also dip down for a kiss to increase intimacy. Similar to most of the sex positions on this list, you can use fingers or toys for clittoral stimulation at the same time, and reach new heights of pleasure.
7. Legs Up
While spread eagle is a popular sex position, sometimes, clamping your legs together can actually increase stimulation and pleasure more than you think. When your thighs are close together, it adds pressure to your clitoris and stimulates the outer edges of the vagina. Lay on your back and put your legs straight up to the ceiling. Your partner can hold them together at your calves or ankles, squeezing between your legs for tighter entry. The added pressure from your thighs increases his pleasure as well. You can use a vibrator for added stimulation for both of you! Switch things up and let your partner shove your legs wide from time to time to offer a variety of sensations.
8. Missionary with a Twist
An oldie but a goodie. The missionary position checks all the boxes for sexual pleasure. It allows for plenty of eye contact, touching, kissing, and deep, satisfying penetration. But not all women can climax from this position and most men finish before their partner. So, how can you overcome these obstacles and, well, come? Try propping a pillow or cushion under your butt. This puts your pelvis at the perfect angle for pleasure. Now harness your inner yogi and put your legs up over your head or rest them on your guy’s chest or shoulders. You’ll find yourself in a bent back, straight-legged position, which, interestingly enough, is called the plow position in yoga! Your bent back position lets your guy get deep enough to potentially reach your G-spot, which is another erogenous zone that can lead to intense, body shaking orgasms for women.
From the traditional to the wild, these sex positions can help women reach the pinnacle of sexual pleasure. Although dual stimulation (vaginal and clitoral) definitely makes reaching the big O easier for ladies, so does intimacy and a deep emotional connection. The best part is if one position doesn’t do the trick you can try another and another until you find what works. Practice makes perfect, even when it comes to coming!
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