Confidence is an attractive trait in anyone. And on a guy, it signifies masculinity, maturity, security, self-awareness, and strength. Women can’t help but be attracted to these qualities, which show that the man they see is a potential partner, provider, and protector.
It’s appealing when a man knows who he is, what he wants and deserves, and believes in himself. But be careful not to confuse high self-esteem with an over-inflated ego or arrogance. On the other hand, insecure men are jealous and manipulative, and their negative behaviors can significantly affect a relationship.
This article covers the characteristics of a confident man and what they do differently in a relationship to make it happy, healthy, and long-lasting.
12 Things Confident Men Do in Relationships
Confident men exude positive attributes that make them more attractive to their partners. They set healthy boundaries and are self-reliant, respectful, and responsible, among other things.
Let’s look at things confident men do differently from insecure ones that significantly impact the strength of their relationships. No matter what your individual personality is like, these are all things you can do!
They Have a Plan and a Purpose
Many people tend to go with the flow, but a confident man knows what he wants and pursues it relentlessly. A man with passion, vision, and ambition is always attractive and admirable. And a confident man certainly knows where their life is going and has a plan to achieve their goals. They might have a bucket list or mapped out the milestones they want to accomplish in the coming years.
Women want to be part of a man with a purpose that pushes them to want to be better, if not great.
They Are Proactive
Confident men don’t sit around waiting for things to happen. When they see someone they like, they’ll approach them without fearing rejection. They will lead the relationship from the get-go without seeking validation.
Being proactive also includes their determination to be the breadwinner and leader in the relationship. And when men take charge, it establishes them as the high-status alpha male women want.
They Take Care of Themselves
Confident men love and respect themselves; as such, they take care of themselves to lead a long and healthy life. They maintain their physical health through proper grooming, healthy eating, and physical exercise. Confident men also prioritize their emotional, mental, and spiritual health. They take time to practice self-love and self-appreciation and not look for validation from others.
They Accept Responsibility
Confident people can admit they are wrong and take responsibility for their actions, words, and emotions. They are open to learning from their mistakes, which is a more robust and healthier way of handling conflict in a relationship.
If they feel unhappy, they don’t blame their partners or accuse you of making them feel a certain way. Also, they don’t put all the blame on their exes if the relationship ends.
This behavior is the contrast of a narcissist. They will gaslight you into thinking all the relationship problems are your fault and that there’s something wrong with you.
They Are Self-Reliant
Self-reliance is one of the most crucial things confident men do in a relationship. They don’t entirely depend on their partner for their physical, mental, emotional, or spiritual needs. They are happy spending time alone doing their own thing but also value time spent with their partner. They will be sure to make time for activities together. A relationship with a confident man is mature and hassle-free.
The same can’t be said for clingy, insecure men who want to spend every waking moment with you. This needy behavior can be taxing and put a strain on the relationship.
They Are Self-Aware
What better way to describe confidence than knowing and accepting who you are? Confident men understand their values, beliefs, emotions, and thoughts more deeply. They can effectively communicate their wants and needs. They are not looking to fit in and know what’s right for their personal, romantic, and career life.
Self-aware men can make informed decisions, easily navigate life challenges, and understand their strengths and weaknesses. They can also understand and empathize with others, thus forming solid relationships.
They Are Kind
Confident men possess power, presence, and warmth in equal measure. With these qualities, they do not fear that people will mistake their kindness for weakness. As a result, they have no problem treating others well. And they also know that the little things count when being kind to others.
They Stay Calm Under Pressure
A confident man never loses his cool. Physical and emotional abuse, throwing things around, or unnecessary yelling is not part of his conduct, no matter the circumstances. They manage their emotions and handle conflict with grace. And even if an argument arises, they don’t lash out.
This is not to say that confident men don’t get angry. However, when they are mad, they think before acting or speaking. They are careful not to worsen the situation with their partner with words spoken in anger.
They Are Respectful
Confident men respect everyone around them, regardless of their status, appearance, gender, or race. Since they know their worth and abilities, they don’t need to put others down so that they can feel good about themselves. They don’t subscribe to patriarchy and don’t say patronizing or sexist comments to their partners or other women. And just as they respect others, confident men expect respect in return.
They Set Healthy Boundaries
Confident men know what they want and what they will — or will not —accept in a relationship. They can’t be guilted or pressured into doing things they don’t want. For this reason, they set boundaries early on in the relationship, including physical, emotional, financial, and sexual limits.
If a partner crosses these boundaries, a confident man will lose respect for them and may want out of the relationship. While this might seem drastic, healthy boundaries set the groundwork for love, trust, and respect in a relationship.
They Know How to Say No
Nobody likes a “yes” person who agrees with everything they say. Such people come off as needy with low self-esteem. Confident men say no when something doesn’t suit them. They won’t settle, aren’t afraid of expressing their emotions, and stand up for their ideas and beliefs.
They Behave Like a Gentleman
Confident men are more likely to practice etiquette and exude gentlemanliness. They will hold doors for their partners, display patience, be respectful, maintain good hygiene, and keep their language clean, among other things.
Build Stronger Relationships with Confidence
There’s something very attractive about a confident man who’s sure of who they are and unapologetic about what they want. Being confident will inspire and invite happiness, thus positively affecting one’s personal and professional life.
Nobody is born confident, but you can build confidence over time.
Start by saying positive affirmations to yourself daily to help create your reality of belief in yourself. It’s also important to recognize your worth and achievements and not compare yourself to others.
Article by Judith Akoyi, BrainManager Team
BrainManager.io is on its way to becoming a leader in psychometric testing, self-assessments, personal growth, self-improvement, and career development. As a member of the BrainManager team, Judith Akoyi holds a bachelor’s degree in anthropology from the University of Nairobi.
Having suffered both anxiety and depression at times in her life, Judith is determined to become her best version. She is passionate about daily physical, mental, and emotional growth. Judith has fought from a very dark place where nothing made sense, different voices spoke negatively to her, and nothing mattered. She is set on living her best life and has started her journey to understanding the human brain and the different mental health issues.
